The First Letter of Peter- 14

Subtitle: Our Witness before the World- Part 6

1 Peter 3:8-12. This sermon was preached by Pastor Marty Bonner on Sunday, February 22, 2026.

Peter has been looking at specific relationships that Christians would have in those days.  In each one, he gives specific instructions. Today’s passage sums all of this up.

Let’s look at our passage.

All of you should be of one mind (v. 8-12)

Peter uses a phrase that is generally translated as “to sum up” or “finally.”  Having reached the end of the relationships he wanted to address specifically, Peter now gives advice on how, as believers in Jesus, we ought to approach our relationships regardless of whether or not we are in the strong or the weak position.  This would include our relationships with other believers and those who are unbelievers.  However, unbelievers are not going to be hearing Peter’s instructions much less adhering to them.

The first thing we run into is to be “harmonious” (NASB).  The word is literally “same-minded” and has the sense of operating from the same thinking.  Though it is not specifically stated in this verse, it is the mind of Christ and the example that came from it that Peter has in mind (see 2:21-25).  To further support this, Peter will use some phrases in this section that were used earlier regarding Jesus.  Thus, it is particularly the mind of Christ that we are to have.

Our approach in our relationships needs to start with the question, “What would Jesus have me do?”  “Jesus, how can I be a boss, an employee, a husband, a wife, etc. that is following your mind?”

Paul says it this way in Philippians 2:5, “Let this mind be in you which was also in Christ Jesus…”  Relationships are better when both parties are thinking like Jesus.  We should be focused on the purposes of God rather than on the purposes of our natural desires.

To be clear, we are not talking about trying to be a good boss as defined by lazy employees, nor are we trying to be a good employee as defined by harsh employers who expect all of your time, even when you are off the clock.  It is defined by Jesus and the trusted Word that we have written down for us in Scripture.

I can have the mind of Christ even when the other person doesn’t.  God will help us to be a witness for Jesus to them by how we act and respond.  No matter what people may do to get ahead of you and push you down, we can entrust ourselves to God.  Will they get away with it?  It may look like it to us, but they haven’t gotten away with it.  God is our defense and reward.

Let’s be clear.  What Jesus experienced was bad.  You too will go through things that are not right.  It is not that God wants these bad things to happen to us but that He promises to work them to the good for us and others.  This is what it means to have the mind of Christ.  It means that we cease using the sin of others to justify our own sin.  Rather, we choose to honor the righteousness of God in the situation and entrust our future into His hands.

Peter continues with a list that describes what it means to have the mind of Christ.  “Having compassion for one another” involves being able to identify with the suffering of another person.  It touches us deeply.  The opposite would be to have a hard and insensitive approach to others.

He then mentions “loving as brothers.”  This refers to the familial love that we should have for one another.  This is best understood within the family of believers.  Of course, familial love has lots of ups and downs, especially in our spiritual infancy.  Brothers will get on each other’s nerves, step on each other’s toes.  Yet we are family.  You don’t kick people out of the family.  You work to reconcile.  Thus, spiritual parents are important.  Mature believers have a duty to help immature believers embrace the righteous path of asking for forgiveness and giving forgiveness.  Yet, in the end, our Heavenly Father will ultimately hold us to the reality of learning to love our brothers and sisters.

We are to be “tender-hearted.”  Similar to compassion, this has the idea of having deep feelings toward one another.  Our love should come from the depths of our heart.

With the last description, we have a manuscript issue.  Some of the early manuscripts have “humble in spirit” and others have “friendly.”  We won’t go into the details of all of that.  I think we can agree that both could be attached to this list without inserting error.  Whether Peter meant humility or friendliness, I would say that they are both good.  The humble person approaches others without arrogance or thinking of yourself as more important than others.

Peter then moves to a couple of negative issues, i.e., things from which to refrain.   He uses the wording about Jesus from 2:22-23.  Jesus did not respond with evil for evil, nor did he revile those who reviled him.  We mentioned back then that reviling has the sense of strong verbal abuse to it.  We are quickly becoming a society that is treating verbal abuse as more and more acceptable.  A Christian must refrain from this activity, even if the other person is abusing us.

In fact, even Christians can have misunderstandings or see things differently from one another.  We are to restrain ourselves from the natural inclinations of our flesh and take hold of the same mind that Christ had when he restrained himself.

Instead of returning evil for evil and reviling for reviling, we are to return a blessing to them.  This a clear allusion to the words of Jesus in the Sermon on the Mount, Matthew 5:44. “Love your enemies and bless those who curse us, pray for those who spitefully use you…”

Yes, this may seem unfair, but unless the other person repents, they will be in a world of hurt in the Judgment.  Don’t let the tragedy of another person’s spiritual destruction pull you down into that destruction as well.

So how can I bless someone who is “cursing” me?  Ultimately, we are seeking to be a good thing in their life, whether they see it as that or not.  We should start by praying for them.  “Lord, I know that you don’t like what they are doing.  I pray that you help me to speak your words, draw them away from their sin and towards you.”  If done well, we can be a good thing in their life by warning them of the judgment that hangs over their actions.  Lastly, we can find something that is tangible to do for them.  In all of this, we need to ask for the wisdom and leading of the Holy Spirit.

We cannot do this in a fake and superficial way.  It must be real and sacrificial.  It must come from the heart of God.

Peter mentions that those who do this “will inherit a blessing.”  He basically says, “If you want to inherit a blessing, then live your life in such a way as to be a blessing to others.”

There is a certain inheritance in this life.  It is up to us how much like Jesus we want to be and therefore the ways He will bless us in this life.  Yet our full inheritance will not come until the Resurrection.  Any blessing in this life is only a bitter-sweet foretaste of something that will have all the bitterness removed in the future!  To dwell with God and His goodness for eternity in immortal, imperishable, bodies is a great inheritance indeed!

Peter then quotes Psalm 34:12-16.  He is essentially showing us that Scripture backs up what he has been saying.

This psalm was written by David when he pretended to be insane in front of the Philistine king in order to save his life.  What was David doing in the Philistine territory?  King Saul of Israel accused David of disloyalty and sought to kill him.  This eventually drove David out of Israel into the enemy’s territory.  This isn’t just about people, but about the devil and his angels too.

It was the fear of the Lord and the desire to be blessed by God that helped David to restrain himself.  Yes, David was not as good as Jesus, but he would be an example from the Old Testament that they could remember.  More than an example, the words of David (the lessons that he discovered in this time) are instructive to us going through something similar.

This section challenges those who want the truth.  Do you desire life, to love and see good days?  If you do, then you must restrain yourself from doing evil and choose to do good, seeking and pursuing peace with others.  Why?  God is watching all that happens.  He will ultimately judge our actions in these things.

God’s eyes are depicted as being towards the righteous.  This is a reference to being favorable to Him.  He is watching us and hearing our prayers in order to “attend” to them.  However, the face of God is against those who do evil.

David simply trusted God.  Saul’s evil actions meant to kill David.  They even pushed David into dangerous territory.  It would be easy for David to justify evil actions toward Saul.  However, David had the mind of Christ (at least in this situation).  David knew that he could not kill Saul and remain guiltless.  God had raised up and anointed Saul, and therefore, God would remove Saul in a way that David could remain pure (see 1 Samuel 26:8-12).

It is difficult to trust God and wait upon Him.  God is far more gracious than we would be.  King Saul didn’t deserve all the grace that God gave him, but David recognized that God would eventually deal with him.

This brings up a powerful question in all of our relationships.  God is watching me and the other person.  The way we treat one another is making a case to God for good or for bad.  We are choosing to be on the side of the righteous or on the side of the wicked.

It is better for us to do what is right (even if the evil continues to be poured out on us) and receive the blessing of God, then to come under the curse and judgment of God.  We all need His grace.  God’s delay of judgment with the wicked is a grace to them.  They may even yet repent.

Perhaps you repented at one point and chose to follow Jesus.  That is great!  Yet repentance needs to be a present attitude with you and me.  We are continually ready to judge when God is not.  It is not just the external enemies who threaten to pull us away from Christ.  It is the internal enemy of our own sinful nature that really threatens to pull us down.

Can we simply be a repenting people who sacrifice themselves in order to pursue peace with others?  Can I serve the purpose of God in the situation rather than the purpose of me?

Others may think that you are foolish, but it is never foolish to stand with Jesus and live out his righteousness.  Of course, we can only do this by the help of the Holy Spirit, through keeping our faith in the mind of Christ, and when we entrust ourselves to the truth that God is our vindication.  Our greatest times of witnessing to the greatness of Christ is when we lay down our desires and pick up his.  This is when the world truly sees Jesus in us!

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Serving For God’s Glory

Today we continue in 1 Peter chapter 4 and deal with verses 7-11.  This section does not speak about suffering per se.  However, it does answer the question.  What should we be doing?  Peter does so by first reminding them of where they are in relation to God’s plan and gives them some practical things upon which to focus.

The End Of All Things Is At Hand

Verse 7 begins with an ominous statement that the end of all things is at hand.  Thus we need to deal with what Peter meant by “The End.”  There are some that believe the apostles taught that Jesus was returning within a matter of months maybe years and thus Peter’s statement reflects his mistaken belief that the coming of Jesus was going to happen shortly.  However this flies in the face of what the Bible says.  Jesus himself had told the apostles in Acts 1:7 that it was not for them to know the times or the seasons which the Father had kept to himself.  Also, many of the parables of Jesus emphasized a long departure of the King which would lead to many of his “managers” abusing their positions.  It is inconsistent to read into this statement that Peter means the Judgment of the nations was going to happen within years.

Others believe that “the end” refers to Israel under the Law of Moses.  In fact they take most if not all of the end times language of the New Testament to refer to the Judgment of Israel.  It is true that the judgment of Israel, which had already begun, would soon receive a “nail in the coffin,” as the Temple was destroyed in 70 AD.  The problem is that this doesn’t fit the context.  Peter is writing to Christians who have already left Israel behind. They were a remnant sent out into the world as a judgment to Israel.  They were scattered throughout the area of modern Turkey.  The final point would be the use of the phrase “all things.”  It would really be stretching the context to make “all things” only mean all things pertaining to Israel.  They live in Gentile lands and their need to be sober and watchful in prayer is because of the coming judgment upon the nations.

The apostles taught that Jesus could come at any time and was ready to bring judgment, but that they did not know the time.  Believers were to simply live a life of readiness for the Lord’s coming.  Thus the Church age or the time of Grace to the Gentiles is characterized by a people who are warning of looming judgment and are ready at all times for it to come.  Israel’s judgment is a warning that emphasizes the message of the Church. 

When we look at history from God’s perspective we will recognize that it has a clear purpose and a distinct destiny.  A football field does not go on forever.  It has a goal or end point that enables a team to place.  God has not put mankind on an infinite field.  The history of mankind is headed somewhere and is revealed in God’s Word.  God is reasoning with man and the angels regarding his nature and the nature of good and evil.  We went from Innocence in the Garden to Rebellion and then Judgment at the Flood.  However, in Noah we see the Grace of God who then furthers that grace by creating a nation Israel who would teach mankind regarding Legalism.  At the cross all mankind, whether rebellious heathens or sanctimonious “followers of God,” are judged as wicked and in need of God’s grace.  We now live in a period of Grace in which God allows that reasoning or message to go out to the world and save whosoever will receive it.  Thus mankind has a purpose that gives it a specific limit or end.

Lastly, regarding the end we need to deal with the phrase “at hand.”  This phrase is more a phrase of process than it is of chronology.  In other words it does not necessarily mean it is about to happen in a matter of months or years.  It means that the plan of God that has reasoned with mankind throughout history had reached its final point.  Now Judgment was looming and a time of grace was given for men to make up their mind.  Jesus is ready to judge, but God refrains from sending him because he is making room for more to be saved.  From a standpoint of the plan of God nothing new needs to happen.  God’s witness of himself is completed and the Church gives it to all those who it can.  Judgment of this world system is the next thing on the agenda.  In that sense it is at hand and ready for the Father’s directive.

How Then Should Believers Live?

This important point of where we are in God’s economy is to let those who are suffering know that not only does their suffering have purpose, but it also has an end.  So what do we do in the mean time?  Simply they need to do what Jesus told them to do. 

First they need to be sober-minded and self controlled.  The two words used here speak to the same idea, but one focuses on the mind whereas the other includes actions.  The world is pursuing the desires of the flesh in an ever maddening rush.  Like a drunken person who has lost all inhibitions and awareness, the world plunges forward into its judgment.  Believers are not to be a part of this.  We are to have “right thinking” and calm purposeful actions that are informed by God himself and thus, reality.  This world threatens to spiritually inebriate Christians, but we must refuse its intoxication.  Temptations can cause us to throw off inhibitions and make dangerous choices, which lead to dangerous actions.  Jesus is coming to judge the world.  Will he find you being faithful when he comes?

We should also be people of prayer.  We don’t just pray soberly.  Rather it is our sobriety that leads us into prayer.  The more we live for the flesh the less we will pray for the right things and eventually the less we will pray at all.  Whether worship and praise, or intercession and petition, the believer who lives in a world that rejects God will find themselves turning to God more and more often.  Between the goodness of God and the heaviness of the world we should not lack motivation to come to God in prayer.

In verse 8 he calls us to be people who love each other.  This is to be above all things.  That does not necessarily mean more important.  But rather our love for one another is the overall atmosphere in which we do all that we do.  We are to love fervently.  The word translated fervently literally means to stretch out.  Much like a football player who wants to make a touchdown stretches out and leaps for the catch, so too must believers stretch themselves out in love.  You may think to yourself, “But I don’t want to get hurt.”  The real question is this: How badly do you want to catch the ball?  Jesus calls us to want to love each other so strongly that we are willing to stretch ourselves out and risk a broken rib here and there.  In fact because each of us are sinners saved by grace, we need love to cover our own sins.  Cover here does not mean to cover up by pretending it doesn’t exist.  Rather, love overlooks those minor faults that we all have and yet confronts those major faults that we all need to change.  Love enables us to remain in community even though our sins would tear us all apart. 

In verse 9 he brings up the issue of hospitality.  This word means to be a friend to strangers.  Though it is hospitable to have your friends over for dinner, true hospitality is when you invite someone you don’t know over for dinner.  Not only that, but we need to do so without that inner complaining that can ruin our spirit.

Lastly, Peter tells us to minister God’s gifts to each other.  Though this can be seen as still a part of love, Peter spends 2 verses fleshing this out in particular.  God has blessed you with certain gifts and abilities.  But they are not for you to spend on yourself.  Rather we are to manage them and administer them to one another.  You are a manager of God’s stuff in your life.  Are you a stingy manager?  Lazy? Lavish? Diligent?  What kind of manager am I of God’s things?  Just as the prophets of old had a serious calling, so we must see ourselves called to bless others through the gifts and abilities that he has and is supplying.  Do not merely trust in yourself, but lean upon God’s supply.  Yes, you may not be able to do it.  But God can through you if you will trust him.

When we minister his gifts to each other we will bring glory to God because we have properly reflected the heart of Jesus.  This really is our ultimate purpose.  So do we really need to do something different as we see the end times come closer and closer?  Not really. The instructions remain the same, because they have always been the instructions of what to do under the looming threat of the end.

Final Thoughts

In these last days we see, on the one hand, how God has lengthened the day of grace in order to save more people.  Peter speaks to this in 2 Peter 3:9 when he says, “The Lord is not slow concerning his promise.”  On the other hand, as we approach the end God will need to shorten it.  Due to the wickedness of mankind and the wrath of God being poured out, no flesh would survive.  This is seen in Matthew 24:22.  We can trust God’s perfect supervision of these end times.  Whether we are suffering or persecuted, God is in control.  He is bringing us to something good.  Instead of fear let us pray for boldness to be sober-minded and self controlled as we love one another.  Maranatha!

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