The Lies We Come To Believe II

Exodus 2:11-15; 3:10-12; 4:1,10,13-14; Judges 6:11-13; 1 Kings 19:1-4, 11-14.

This sermon was preached by Pastor Marty Bonner on Father’s Day, June 16, 2024.

I preached a sermon on Mother’s Day with this same title.  There we looked at Eve, Sarah, and Naomi.  Each of them had spiritual hurts and emotional wounds that made it difficult to believe God.  When a person is wounded in life, it always has a lie or half-truth that surfaces in our heart, perhaps more than one.  We can be tempted then to live our life believing those lies to be true.

Today we are going to do the same thing, but with three men: Moses, Gideon, and Elijah.  I want to make it clear that the lies we believe are not generally specific to whether we are female or male.

In fact, there are many different hurts that can lead us to believe the same lie, similar to how a geographical destination can have many different roads that lead to it.  Women can learn from the stories of men and men can learn from the stories of women because the specific details of our experiences are not the most important thing to them.  Rather, what is most important is to see the mistakes that we make and how the Lord gives grace for us to overcome them.

The flip-side of this title, “The Lies We Come To Believe,” is this: “And The God Who Saves Us From Them!”  Amen?

May we see a little bit of ourselves in these three men, and may we be encouraged to have faith in God for the week ahead of us.

Let’s look at our first passage.

Moses (Exodus 2, 3, 4)

We have skipped the story about the birth of Moses.  Pharaoh was afraid that his Israelite slaves were growing too numerous.  He decreed that all infant males born to the Hebrews would be put to death.  Thus, Moses is born under the threat of death.  I wonder if his mother had been reading or thinking about the account of Noah when she had the idea of making a little “ark” out of bullrushes and casting her little boy upon the waters of the Nile, hoping for God to protect him from the dangers of the world.  The Egyptian princess “just happens” to find the boy in the make-shift ark and raises him as her own.  The event of chapter 2 doesn’t happen until Moses is 40 years old, according to Stephen in Acts 7:23.  It “just happens to come to him” to check on the condition of his fellow Hebrews, and he finds that it isn’t good.  Moses kills an Egyptian task-master, has an exchange with a bitter Hebrew slave, and has to run for his life because Pharaoh found out what he had done.

Moses then goes into the land of Midian, which interestingly enough means “strife.”  He will spend the next 40 years living in this rustic place raising a family and being a shepherd.  When we come to Exodus 3 and the story of the burning bush, Moses is now 80 years old.  The Angel of the Lord appears to him within a bush that is on fire but not being consumed.  The exchange continues into chapter 4.  If you pay attention to this exchange, you will see that God is calling Moses to go to Egypt and help deliver his people out of slavery.  Yet, Moses is not interested.  He offers up several protests, or excuses, as to why it shouldn’t be him.  We will look at those in a second, but first notice Exodus 4:14.

The continual protests of Moses stirs up the anger of the Lord against him.  This is called trying the patience of God.  It is one thing to try the patience of people, but quite another to test God’s patience.  Yet, we see here that God’s mercy is still extended to Moses. 

Let’s talk first about the wounds that Moses received.  His life is divided into three very distinct periods of 40 years each.  He is a prince in Egypt, lacking nothing, from birth to 40.  He is a shepherd in the wilderness of Midian from 40 to 80.  Lastly, he is a leader of Israel in the deserts south and south east of Canaan from 80 to 120.  It is the event at 40 years of age in Exodus 2 that helps us to see his wound, which begins with the killing of the Egyptian.  Clearly Moses feels like he needs to do something, but in a moment of passion, he kills an Egyptian.  He believes that no one has seen him do this.  However, the next day he finds two Hebrews fighting.  He challenges the one who had struck his brother, but receives a bitter reply.  “Who made you a prince and a judge over us?  Do you intend to kill me as you killed the Egyptian?”  Are  you a murderer going to lecture me about striking my brother?  Are you who have lived a princely life wanting to play the prince of slaves?

We need to understand that bitter people who have endured bitter lives have a knack for wounding others.  They have so many emotional wounds that they cease to care about how they impact others.  The devil wants us acting out of the pain of our wounds because we will then hurt others instead of finding the healing of God, even being a channel of the healing of God.  Please read this paragraph over again because many Christians still live their lives rooted in legitimate wounds they received in the past.

The wound that Moses receives is one of rejection.  Pharaoh wants to kill him for daring to kill an Egyptian.  His own people aren’t interested in what little help he wants to offer.  The fact that Moses had never made a single brick in his life probably added to their distaste for him. 

You might object that this was only one man.  That is precisely the point.  Our emotional wounds are not always rational.  Moses had to run because Pharaoh had the power to find him and kill him in Egypt.  Yet, that bitter reply of another Hebrew went deep into the heart of Moses.  You have nothing to offer these people.  They don’t want you.  Rejection is a bitter pill and it really messes people up..

Here is the thing to ponder.  All wounds tempt us to believe things that are either blatant lies or are half-truths.  The wounds and the feelings about them are real.  We shouldn’t discount them.  However, our wounded feelings are extremely bad at discovering truth.  The gravity of our injured self is always towards a self-deception.  It takes a miracle of God to pull a person out of that trap.

Think about anger.  We are told in the Bible that “the anger of man does not produce the righteousness of God” (James 1:20).  However, it does not say along with that, “Don’t be angry.”  Rather, we are told “’Be angry, and do not sin’: do not let the sun go down on your wrath…” (Ephesians 4:26; Psalm 4:4).  Anger is a powerful emotion that can result from unjust situations as well as out of our own sin.  When we allow anger to drive the responses we make (even when that anger is justified), we will find ourselves falling into sin.

Anger is not the only emotion that can take control of us because of wounds in our past.  No feeling should be used to justify sinful actions.  Rather, we must submit ourselves to the commands of Christ and his Apostles.

I do want to be careful pretending to be in the head of Moses.  This is not an attempt to psychoanalyze Moses.  Instead, this is about how we all respond to hurt and seeing the similar dynamic in him.  I want us to see ourselves in what he is going through.  We need to recognize how we have been wounded, and then, how God wants to heal that wound.

So let’s get into the five protests that Moses gives to God.  We will see that there is a lie or half-truth that is beneath these protests.

1.  Exodus 3:11.  Moses questions who he is to do what God is saying.  The lie beneath this is:  I am nobody.  Rejection always affects self-worth.  A person can’t help the emotional response that says, “What is wrong with me that you would reject me?”  Kids do this when their parents fight and divorce.  Generally, this has nothing to do with the kids, but they feel that way anyway.  In fact, it is quite common that people who hurt you aren’t even thinking about you.  They are thinking about themselves and not caring about what you think or feel.

The world’s answer to all of this is to boost up your self-esteem and kick the negative people out of your life.  If Jesus had done that, then none of us could be saved.  Jesus didn’t kick the negative people out of his life.  He loved them to the bitter end, entrusting His life to God.

For the believer, our self worth needs to be anchored in Jesus and his love for us (as well as for the people who hurt us).  You may be nobody in the eyes of the world, but this doesn’t make you a nobody.  You are somebody that is loved by God.  He  has a purpose for you, and no matter what it is, He will help you to do it!

2.  Exodus 4:1.  The next lie is this.  They will not listen, believe, or follow me.  Out of that injured self-image flows the doubting of what God can do through us when He calls us to something.  In fact, parents can do this with their kids.  You can be offended that your kids are responding to your wisdom, instruction, and correction.  This doesn’t give you the right to write your kids off.  God’s calling remains on you regardless of how your kids respond. 

In this case, Moses is somewhat right.  The story of Israel coming out of Egypt is full of the murmuring and protests of the Israelites against God and Moses.  They may have physically followed Moses into the wilderness, but most of them perished there because they didn’t trust God.  Their lack of faith often caused them to take out their frustrations on Moses.  However, this isn’t the problem of Moses.  It is God’s problem, and He is quite capable of taking care of His problems (and ours).

3.  Exodus 4:10.  Here is another lie.  I am not eloquent (skilled) enough to do it.  This is the same argument as before.  Doing something for God is never dependent upon your level of talent.  It is dependent upon the blessing of God.

The Bible tells us to ask for wisdom if we lack it.  I suppose we could also ask for talent if we lack it.  However, let me talk about wisdom for a moment.  When God does supply wisdom, what does that look like?  Do you instantly sound amazingly like Solomon?  Does everyone around start remarking about how wise you are?  Of course not.  Yet, God gives you wisdom, here a little and there a little.  It builds up.  You don’t have to “sound wise” to the world in order to be wise.  Perhaps, it is best if you don’t.

4.  Exodus 4:13.  The lie here is this.  Someone else would be better than me.  This is a cop-out.  Why would God be asking you?  Why would the Holy Spirit be stirring it up in you, if this was true?  Maybe it is better for you that you do it?  God doesn’t just “use” people to help others.  He is simultaneously helping the person who chooses to obey him and help others.  It is good for us to be both receivers and givers.  Receiving teaches us humility, and giving teaches us compassion and mercy.

Of course, the attitude that says for God to find somebody else can also be sheer laziness, but I don’t get that vibe in this passage.  Moses has tried that and has the proverbial T-shirt to prove it.

5.  Underlying this whole account is a final lie.  I can’t go back there.  This was Egypt for Moses, but what is it for you?  We can go anywhere if God is with us.  Whether out of fear or out of pragmatism, Moses is not interested in going back to Egypt.  Going back will only make things worse: a Pharaoh who wants him dead, and a people who despise this non-slave Hebrew.

Moses would have stayed in Midian another 40 years, if God had let him.  However, God had different plans.

In moments where God is calling us to go back and face painful situations, it can feel like it is impossible.  However, this is precisely why we need Jesus.  He will go with us and lead us forth in victory, not against people, but against the lies, half-truths, and spiritual enemies that you have.  You may feel like you can’t face it, but you can with Jesus.  God has a good thing in the task that He is asking of you, and you can trust Him.

Gideon (Judges 6:11-15)

We won’t spend as much time on these last two.  Gideon lives about 200 years following Joshua.  There has been at least three periods of subjugation over Israel with several stories of judges or people who accomplished vindication for Israel.

Gideon’s wound is found in that he is a no-status person within a subjugated people.  As Americans, we do not know what that feels like.  We have no clue.  So, when the Angel of the LORD shows up to explain to Gideon that God plans to deliver Israel through him, Gideon responds out of this mentality.

Gideon’s first response bristles at the idea that God is with them and for them.  If God was really with us, then things would be better than this.  This is a very common lie that we tell ourselves.  We will even see every bad thing in our life as proof that God is against us (or worse, we think of it in terms of karma).  “God, what am I doing wrong?  If I was doing it right, surely it would be better than this!”

We need to be very careful with such ideas and questions.  God’s calling on Israel had not changed.  He had not rescinded it.  When we are in times of discipline because of sin, or even when we are in a time of discipline to make us stronger (i.e., not because of sin), God  is still with us and being faithful to us.  It is foolish to interpret the Fatherly discipline of God as a rejection from Him.  This is a lie.  The reason we entertain it is because of our past hurts, wounds, and even our sin, which always harms us and others.

We see a better response in Ezekiel and Daniel.  They were prophets during the period when God’s discipline cause Israel to be taken captive to Babylon.   Yes, Israel was in trouble with God.  However, after 70 years, they knew that God would bring Israel back.  Daniel knew that God would bring them back, and he put his faith in God’s ability to accomplish this.

It is very common for Christians to misinterpret the discipline of God.  We think of it as bad, and pray for God to return His goodness to us.  We tell ourselves that we have to trudge through the “badness of God” in order to get the “goodness of God” some day.

This is a lie.  The time in the wilderness was a special time of intimacy with God for Israel.  Many other generations looked back to the miracles that happened in those days asking where God was in there day.  We even see Gideon making this point in verse 13.  He is wishing that God would do for him in his day what God did for Israel back when they came out of Egypt (yes, during the times of discipline).

There were no gardens, no grain fields, and no fruit trees in the wilderness, but God supernaturally fed them day after day and provided water in a place where there was none.  Later, when they made it into the promised land (where they had all those “good things”), they tended to walk away from intimacy with God.  A man like David stuck out like an odd duck because he came to intimately know God and acted out of that relationship.  We spend entirely too much time accusing God of cursing us (letting bad things happen) when He is actually trying to bless us.

Gideon expresses the idea that he and Israel are forsaken by God.  However, this is a lie.  Jesus says this on the cross.  I believe he says this (“My God, my God, why have you forsaken me?”) for two reasons.  First, he is letting us know that he feels exactly what we feel when we have such a moment in our life.  You know, the kind of experience where you are asking God to deliver you and not let the bad thing happen, but then you are crucified anyway.  Jesus gets it.  God understands how we feel.  He has felt it Himself! 

However, there is a second reason Jesus says this.  This was a Hebrew way of telling people to pay attention to a particular passage in the Bible.  In English, we would say, “Turn in your Bibles to Psalm 22 and pay attention to what it says.”  The Hebrews generally used the opening word or line of a passage to refer to it.  “Turn in your Bibles to My God, My God why have You Forsaken Me, and pay attention to what it says.  That Psalm has a clear turning point: “He has heard me.”  The lament of a man dying on a cross suddenly turns into a rejoicing in the God who has heard him.  Try reading Psalm 22 as if it is Jesus speaking about his time on the cross.

When these kind of lies surface in your mind, you need to ask yourself these questions.  Who told me that?  How did I come to believe this?  Is this what God’s Word says?  The tough things you experience in life are not proof that God has or hasn’t forsaken you.  The Word of God tells you that He will never leave you nor forsake you, not even to the end of this Age!  See Matthew 28:20 and Hebrews 13:5.

I don’t have time to point out more, but we can look to Gideon’s response about his status in verse 15.  I can’t do it because I am a low-status person in a subjugated people!  This doesn’t matter when God is calling you to do something.

Elijah (vs. 1-4; 11-14)

On the heels of a great victory, in which fire comes down from heaven and burns up the sacrifice to Yahweh, Jezebel sends word to Elijah that she is going to have him hunted down and killed.  This causes Elijah to go on the run to the southern part of the Judean Kingdom.  From there, an angel tells him to go further south to Mt. Sinai.

Elijah’s wound has parts of it that are from rejection.  His life is being hunted by a king and queen who cannot restrain themselves from evil.  He was simply being a faithful prophet to Yahweh, and yet they hunt him down as if he were the one worshiping false gods.

There is one scene where Elijah shows up to confront King Ahab of his wickedness.  Ahab calls Elijah, the troubler of Israel.  Of course, it was Ahab and Jezebel that were bringing trouble upon Israel.  Of course, governments that reject God love to point to those who do love God as the problem

Elijah simply feels defeated.  He even begs God to kill him.  Life isn’t worth it.

I will point out three lies that have taken root in Elijah’s heart.  The first is this.  Nothing I do makes a difference.  There are a lot of young people today who are looking at the Church saying that it is not working or making a difference.  However, this assumes that we know what making a difference looks like.  It assumes we know what should be happening.  Of course, everyone should be repenting and believing in God.  This Republic shouldn’t be plundered by our spiritual enemy and fighting against one another, but we are.  What is the difference that God has us here to affect?  Be very careful in pretending that you know exactly what God is trying to accomplish through you, much more His Church.  Yes, He wants to save people, but sometimes we have to go through some tough things in order to get back to a place of true repentance.

In some ways, Jesus did not send the Church to make the world into a governmental paradise.  It could if we would all follow Christ and turn from sin.  In fact, there have been times throughout history in which particular families and particular nations saw some powerful things happen to turn the whole towards the things of God.  However, these often pass until we find a family full of people who don’t serve Jesus like their grandparents did, or a nation that no longer believes what their founding generation believed about God.

We are told that this varied experience will continue until the end of this Age of Grace.  There will be a wholesale apostasy against the truth of Jesus in these last days.  I am not saying that no one will be saved.  We are in a time similar to the days of Elijah.  Was he making a difference?  It didn’t look like it, but God was using him to encourage the remnant of 7,000 people who hadn’t bowed the knee to Ahab and Jezebel’s false god, Baal.  Yes, it is a discouraging time to work for the LORD, and our flesh doesn’t like laboring in that place, but it is where we are.  God sometimes needs us to be in that place.

On one hand, He is ensuring that the baton of faith makes it to the next generation.  But another reason can be this.  Elijah was one of the “power prophets.”  God did powerful miracles through Elijah. This is in contrast to a prophet like Jeremiah.  We have no miracles of Jeremiah, except for his ability to tell people what was going to happen in the future, and be 100% correct.  However, the power that was expressed in Elijah’s life was not about him.  It was always about what God was doing in that period of Israel.  Jeremiah’s generation were only given a sign of truth being spoken to them.  They received no fire from heaven and no Red Sea’s being parted.

So, if you find yourself in a wilderness eating bread delivered by a raven, and you feel that normal feeling, “This isn’t getting me anywhere…This isn’t working,” then stop looking at your situation with the world’s eye, the eye of your flesh.  Look with the eyes of faith in God.  He has a purpose in it, especially when we don’t understand what it is.

Elijah could be killed at any time, but his life is in God’s hand.  We should never presume God’s protection, but neither do we fear when we end up in the hand of the powers of the land.  When Pilate challenged Jesus to speak to him, he emphasized that he had power to put Jesus to death.  Do you know what Jesus said?  Turn to John 19:11 and find out.  Jesus knew that God had a purpose for His life and if Pilate was part of that purpose, then who was Jesus to fight against it?  This is not an argument against his place in the Godhead.  It is an argument for the function and role he performs within the Trinity.

We should also notice the words of Elijah, “I am no better than my fathers.”  He had started out with so much hope, but now sees that he has failed just like those before him.  In some ways, this is the same message that Isaiah presents in his book.  He is faced with the absolute failure of Israel to bring forth any salvation in the earth, and yet he is also faced with the power of God to produce salvation by His own Right Hand, Jesus!

May God help us to surrender in those times that are hard on our flesh.  May we recognize that He is making our inner man stronger, and He is giving us a spiritual gift that we can share with others so that they may be free.

The righteous will walk by faith.  They will breathe, get up in the morning, and go to work by faith too.

Elijah was ready to quit.  There is not a one of us who can’t relate to him in that moment.  However, you need to trust that God knows how you feel.  Jesus knows the feeling better than even you or I do.

Many a parent has given up on their marriage and their kids.  Sometimes they are even still in the home, present, but really absent.  When we operate out of the woundedness of our past, we simply continue the pain, continue wounding others and ourselves.  Jesus wants to heal our wounds and neutralize the lies that we have come to believe so that we can be the devil’s worst nightmare when we run into others who are like we used to be.

I pray that God will help fathers and mothers, sons and daughters, to turn away from the lies of this world and turn to the truth of God in Jesus!

Lies II

The Lies We Come To Believe

Genesis 3:1-13; 18:1-2, 9-15; Ruth 1:3-5, 8-13, 19-21.  This sermon was preached by Pastor Marty Bonner on Mother’s Day, May 12, 2024.

We are going to focus on three different women in order to see a dynamic that exists between hurts and wounds that we experience in life and the lies we come to believe because of them.

How have I let wounds be a source of entrenching lies in my heart and mind?  Much of the Christian walk involves a person letting the Word of God and the Spirit of God help us to discover and remove the lies that we have been living by.

Let’s look at our passages.

Eve (Genesis 3:1-13)

In verse 13, we see that Eve realizes that she was deceived by the serpent, the devil.  She believed him and then did what seemed right.  The moment when a person realizes that they have been duped, or deceived, is a horrible moment.  That sinking feeling in the pit of your stomach can occurs moments after you realize that you have just been scammed a lot of money by someone.  It is the same realization that Pinocchio had on the Island of Pleasure when he laughed at the other boy, who was turning into a donkey, and heard his own laughter turn into the bray of a donkey.

Eve’s wound is that she was deceived and then did something that brought harm to her husband and future children.  Of course, the results of being deceived are manifold, and they are not the only wounds a person experiences in life.  However, we will focus on this one.

Can you imagine later when Eve hears that her eldest son, Cain, had killed her next son, Abel?  Yes, there is that horrible realization of the unthinkable happening, but quick on its heels would be the realization that this is just another fruit of that prior deception and fatal action.

At this point, it is instructive to just recognize how the serpent, the devil (see Revelation 12:9), operates.  Her first mistake was listening to what that liar had to say.  This is subtly pointed out by God when He questions Adam, “Who told you that you were naked?”  The implication is more about the being with whom they have been talking, and not specifically what he said.  It doesn’t matter what the devil says.  It will always be a deceptive lie.

The devil’s first question completely overstates God’s command.  “Did God really say that you can’t eat from the trees of the garden?”  He first gets her to defend God by stating they can eat from all the trees but one.  Then, he directly contradicts God with a lie.  “You will not surely die!”  Thirdly, he accuses God’s motive for holding out this one tree from them.  “God knows that in the day you eat of it your eyes will be opened, and you will be like God, knowing good and evil.”  The implication is that God doesn’t want any competition, and so, He is holding you back from something good.

Now, there are lies that we are told, but there are also lies that we come to believe as a result of them.  The first lie may be recognized and then rejected.  I do not believe Adam and Eve were deceived by the devil again.  They knew that he had tricked them, and they would not be listening to his lie that they can do something to become like God.  It is here that the wounding affects our heart and mind.  Because of the hurtful situation, our heart and mind will gravitate towards ideas and thoughts that rise up within us.  The wounding process itself can embed a subtle lie into our soul.  These lies are harder to remove.

Take a young child who is abused for example.  They may be yelled at, and or beaten, while being told that they are stupid, dumb, and a pain in the backside by a parent who is consumed with their own pain.  As an adult, the child may come to realize that their parent was simply messed up.  They were not speaking truth, but emoting in the midst of pain, venting their frustrations on the easiest thing near them, you.  This does not guarantee an instantaneous freedom from the inner lie that you are not worthy of love because something is drastically wrong with you.  By the time an adult comes to realize the wound, they have lived with a lie for a very long time. Even when we know it is untrue, those lies are often our default response, almost instinctual.

Satan doesn’t appear to us as a serpent anymore.  But, he is still a liar and our enemy.  There is a lot of water under the bridge of humanity’s history of listening to the serpent.  He has raised up lies in the form of wise-sounding statements, ideas, philosophies, and even wise-sounding false religions.  This sea of sophistry crosspollinates in a young person’s life as they grow up.  The wounds we experience will take hold of those things that are close at hand, which are often lies.

What were some of the things that may have stuck in Eve’s heart and mind following the eating of the fruit of the tree of the knowledge of good and evil?  We don’t know for sure, but here are some lies that we would tend to believe.

“I am so stupid!”  We can beat ourselves up for being innocent, but that wasn’t Eve’s true problem.  Her true problem is that she didn’t trust God, no matter what.  She isn’t stupid; she was just played.

“I messed it up and so I am not worthy of love!”  This can be between Eve and Adam, between Eve and her children, and between Eve and God.  No matter how many times another person tells us that they love us, we can internally rebuff the idea because we know that we are not worthy of love.  “If they only knew the truth about me!”  Or, “They are just saying that to be nice, but the truth is…” 

At this point, let me remind us that God shows up and speaks into the situation.  God never curses Adam and Eve.  He curses the serpent (you will crawl on your belly and eat the dust!), and He curses the earth.  When God finally addresses Eve, He points to one thing that He will do to her, “I will greatly multiply your sorrow and your conception; In pain you shall bring forth children…”  However, the second part points to something that will be more of a consequence of her sin, rather than a direct action of God.  “Your desire shall be for your husband, And he shall rule over you.”  Verse 15 is somewhat vague and that may be on purpose.  It can have a perfectly good interpretation.  Eve will have a desire towards her husband, and he will protectively shelter her.  It is the imagery of how their relationship will be affected by living in a sinful world.  The woman’s weaker frame now becomes a liability and she will desire a husband to help protect her in this world, to which a good husband would give himself fully.  Yet, it also has some sinister connotations.  This is most likely because God is not just talking about Eve.  By extension, all the daughters of Eve will have individual experiences of life and with husbands.  It cannot be by accident that God warns Cain with these same words in Genesis 4.  He warns Cain that sin’s “desire is for you, but you should rule over it.”  This leaves room for a more sinister experience to happen between husband and wife.  A friction involving desire and power can infect the relationship in sinful ways.

Another lie that Eve could come to believe is this.  “I am no match for my enemy, so there is no hope.”  We should notice in Genesis 3:15, after placing a curse on the serpent, that God also promises help to mankind.  God sees that Satan has attacked humanity through the woman, and so, God states that He will put a hostility between the woman and the serpent, between her offspring and the serpent’s offspring.  He then promises that the woman will give birth to a particular offspring, and “He will crush [the serpent’s] head, and you will crush his heel.”  It clearly pictures a man, but a man who comes from a woman.  God could have spoke about Adam’s offspring, but it seems clear that God is signaling that the woman will be uniquely instrumental in the bringing forth of the head crusher.  This makes sense when we see the miraculous birth of Messiah Jesus.  No man was involved in the conception of Jesus.  Thus, God gives Eve and Adam hope, a promise.

It is easier to believe the lies of the wounds we receive than to believe God’s promises to us in His word.  There is always a hurt, cynical part of our heart that almost refuses to believe.  God let me be hurt, so how can I trust Him?  Thus, Eve may give herself fully to having children at first.  Hey, if I am going to give birth to the head crusher of my enemy, then let’s do this!  Yet, when Cain kill Abel, Eve realizes that this is more complicated than she may have thought.  Centuries later, they would understand that this will not be a quick turn around.  Thus, the long plan of God can be hard to trust even when it promises hope.

By the way, we must understand that Satan hated, and still hates, this power of humans to create offspring.  God had fit Adam and Eve against their enemy even before he struck.  The Satan tricked Eve, but she would have children.  For his plan to work, he is stuck tricking a new generation over and over again.  Talk about a drudgery.  Yet, in this, he would never know when one of those kids would raise up to crush his head.  Talk about fear.  Every time a man and woman put their trust in God and give birth to the next generation- now not to bring forth Messiah, but because we have a promise that He is helping us against our enemy- he hates it.  This is behind all the attacks against gender, marriage, birth, etc.  Satan hates us because God is using us to crush him in the dust.

God’s Word to us is intended to be a firehose that blasts the crud of lies that has caked itself on our hearts and minds.  It enables us to have faith and believe the Truth over the top of the lies that our heart wants to hang on to.

Sarah (Genesis 18:1-2, 9-15)

Let’s talk about Sarah, the wife of Abraham.  At the point of our passage, Abraham is 99 years old and Sarah is 89.  We might recognize that the ages of humans have been dropping ever since the flood.  Abraham lives to 175 years old, and Sarah lives to 127.  But, even with that in mind, the text tells us that Sarah has passed the age of bearing children.

Now, Abraham had been promised a multitude of offspring by God back when he was 75 (24 years before).  At some point, Sarah realizes that she is not going to have any children so she has Abraham bear a child in her name through her maid servant, Hagar.  This was a cultural mechanism that existed at the time.  Hagar would be considered a second-class wife of Abraham with particular privileges that would not be as great of those of Sarah.  This had happened about 13 years earlier.  Yet,  God had told Abraham that Ishmael would not be the one through whom the Promise would be fulfilled.  It would not be a child that came about by sheer will of man and work of the flesh.  Rather, it would be a miracle of God.

This helps us to see the wound that Sarah had.  She had been unable to bear a child for her husband to whom God had promised many offspring.  She had to live with the social stigma that her husband had no heir because she was fruitless.  She also had to live with the personal feelings of worthlessness.  No matter how much Abraham told her that he loved her, it would not be enough to fill the hurt of the wound in her soul.  He loved her and she loved him.

Let me take a few minutes to address polygamy at this time.  We should recognize that God gave Adam one wife.  The first time we see polygamy mentioned in the Bible, it is Lamech from the line of Cain.  Secondly, the polygamy we see with the patriarchs is itself instructive.  Abraham only “marries” Hagar because Sarah wants a baby so badly that she insists upon it.  Neither of them see it as good, but as an answer for a bad situation.  Of course, Isaac and Rebekah are a single couple with no polygamy.  Yet, with Jacob we see it again.

Notice that Jacob only has eyes for Rachel.  If it had been up to him, he would have only married Rachel and moved on.  Yet, Rachel’s dad tricked him into sleeping with Leah and consummating a tricked marriage.  Of course, he is not leaving without the woman he loves so he ends up married to two sisters.  Yet, these sisters are envious of one another and use the number of babies they have as a club against one another.  This causes Rachel to insist that Jacob have children through her maid servant (as Abraham had done with Hagar).  Then, Leah insists on the same with her maid servant.  None of this presents polygamy as an acceptable thing.  In fact, it begs the wisdom of relying upon it to answer a physical problem.  It only brought trouble to those who practiced it.

No husband (or wife) can fill the wound of their spouse with their love because there are lies that are entrenched within the wound.  Yet, God can use a godly spouse to help the other to heal.

Sarah came to believe that she would never have a child.  When did she become convinced of that?  Probably right before she suggested that Abraham marry her maid servant.  Even prophetic words from God to Abraham were not enough for her to trust and wait.  She may have had a little hope when Hagar had Ishmael, but it is clear that this dissipated.  She had given up on ever having a child as God had promised her husband.  She was the weak point of this plan.  God may love her husband, but He clearly doesn’t love her.  He would be better off to get rid of her.

I can’t know that all of these things went through her mind, but similar things did.  She had come to believe that she would not  be blessed of God and that she was worthless to her husband.

Yet, she would one day have a child as this passage explains.  The thought was ridiculous and caused her to laugh in her heart.  How many times do we give lip service to God, and yet laugh in our heart that anything will change in our life?  Of course, when we persist in idolizing lies in our heart, we will continue to chafe under God’s promises.  Sarah would laugh on the day she realized she was pregnant.  She names her baby “laughter,” Isaac.  However, that alone does not heal the wound.  How many other ways has the ideas of worthlessness and being unloved, not blessed, affected her life (our lives)?

Naomi (Ruth 1:3-5, 8-13, 19-21)

Of the three women, we know the most about what was going through Naomi’s mind.  If you pause and think about what is said by each of her statements, you will see that bitterness had taken hold of her heart.  She was wounded deeply.  Of course, we could say it is for good reason.  What human wouldn’t be bitter and sorrowful, if their spouse and children died and they were left alone and old in a world that was not particularly kind to old and alone people.

This is similar to Job.  He wrestled with how God could bring these things upon him.  What had he done? In his mind, he could only wonder why God was so against him.  Naomi probably said a lot of the same things as Job.

We see Naomi deciding to leave Moab and go back to Israel.  She sends her daughters-in-law back to their families because they will have nothing with her.  In short, she does so because she believes that she is cursed and they need to cut ties with her to get out from under the curse.

Naomi gives voice to several lies.  She states that the LORD is against her, and thus, she has no hope.  It is true that you have no hope if God is against you.  However, she was misreading the situation.  Yes, God let these things happen, but it was not because He was against her.

She also says that the LORD has dealt very bitterly with her.  She further describes this as the LORD testifying against her and afflicting her.  Thus, she is taking it personal.  God has done this to her, and by so doing, He has testified that there is something wrong with her.  These afflictions are taken as being from God to her.  We should be careful of thinking that every bad thing that happens is done by God particularly to us. 

In the story of Job, we see that it is primarily the Devil who is bringing these things upon Job.  Yes, God is allowing it, and so, He is secondarily responsible.  It begs the question.  Can you still trust God when He let’s bad things happen to you?  Will I cling to my hurts and stay stuck in unbelief towards the promises of God?

We need to be proactive in this and fill our minds with the Word of God, His promises.  Don’t laugh at it in your heart.  Or rather, I should say, remind yourself of these things when you feel a cynical chuckle rise in your heart.  Is there anything too hard for God?  No, of course not.  If it is not a question of God’s power, then it is a question of His heart for me.  In my woundedness, I am tempted to see God as trying to harm me and destroy me.  Yet, this can’t be farther from the truth.

When you doubt God’s love for you, you must take time to look back at the cross.  While [you] were yet a sinner, Christ died for [you].  Jesus went to the cross because He loves you and wants to redeem you back from the Fall of humanity, and he wants to deliver us from our enemy, the devil.

Both Sarah and Naomi saw God’s amazing answer in their life.  However, it doesn’t always come as a natural answer.  Some women will never have a child.  Yet, we can recognize that God has purpose in it that is good.  If I can’t have babies in the natural, then I can have spiritual offspring.  How many kids are growing up in this world without the knowledge of God’s love for them?  They will need spiritual moms and dads who come along side of them and help them to heal.

Take time this week to look back through your own life.  What were the ways that you were hurt?  What lies were embedded at that time in your heart and mind?  We are not talking about thinking positive thoughts so that we can attract positive things towards us.  This is about coming into conformity with the truth about what God says.  God loved Jesus.  Yet, he would have to die on a cross.  Everything would tell the human side that God has forsaken him, but God is not a liar.  Jesus pressed on because He trusted the heart of the Father and brought about a greater good than him becoming king of Israel in the first century AD.

Historically, I am a very bad judge of what is “good” in my life.  How many times has God shown me that things of my past, that I spent decades complaining about, were actually a blessing from Him.  They were producing something in me that would be invaluable later.

God tells us that we shall be perfect even as He is perfect (Matthew 5:48).  Can I believe Him?  By the Holy Spirit, with that life-force of God Himself, can I cooperate with God to bring about a good that I can’t even imagine?  Or, perhaps at which I would simply laugh because of all the lies entrenched in my heart?  Let us be those who drop off the lies, and grasp hold of the Truth of God’s love for us!

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Society under Siege: Sexual Boundaries

1 Corinthians 6:9-20.  This sermon was preached by Pastor Marty Bonner on September 11, 2016.

Since the 1960’s a sexual revolution has been going on within our society.  However, in the last decade a “breaking of the dam” has accelerated the pace that Americans are embracing sexual sin.  On one hand we do need to remind ourselves that these sexual sins are not new.  There prevalence in our society may be new, but sexual immorality has enjoyed the embrace of many a society throughout history.  In fact we have not plumbed the depths of sexual immorality.  The Christian foundation that lies beneath this country has been rejected by a steadily increasing number.  We are in the process of replacing the old foundation with a new one.

It is important for Christians to stop themselves, before they wax eloquently against homosexuality and transgenderism, and deal with the truth that we are all drawn to some form of sexual immorality.  Many who are vocal against homosexuality can be guilty of the hypocrisy of pointing out another’s sin without dealing with their own.  The Bible makes it clear that sexual fantasy is sin.  Pre-marital sex is sin.  Adultery is sin.  Divorce for selfish reasons is sin.   The Church has struggled over the last century with these issues as well.  Sometimes we have done well in holding up biblical truth.  Other times we have done poorly at forgiving people whom Christ has forgiven.

We must also remember that sexual sin is not just wrong.  It destroys a person and robs them of life.  Compassion must be the essence of our response, and not a fake compassion that embraces destructive life choices.

The Christian must leave behind the old life

In 1 Corinthians 6, Paul is dealing with the Corinthian Christian’s who were embracing all manner of sinful activities.  Though they had received the truth of the Gospel of Christ, it had become a blanket absolution for continuing to make sinful choices and live sinful lifestyles (at least for some).  In challenging these Christians, Paul gives a list of sins that they were apparently doing.  This list begins with sexual sins and then includes some non-sexual sins.  The first word is “porneia” in the Greek.  It can cover a range of sexual sin (pre-marital sex, prostitution).  The second word, idolatry, is not actually a sexual sin.  But, throughout the Old Testament idolatry is connected with sexual sin.  The reason is because idolatry is unfaithfulness to God, who is often depicted as a Husband to His people.  In fact, we should note that sexual sin can be so powerful that it often operates as an idol in our life.  We will make any sacrifice in order to please it.  Adultery and Homosexuality are pretty clear.  He goes on to list: thefts, coveting, and drunkenness, which are pretty obvious too.  Revilers are those who use harsh, abusive and caustic accusations against others.  It has the sense of a harsh attack.  Lastly we have a word that is translated as "extortioners" in the NKJV.  It is the same word Jesus used of false prophets who come in sheep’s clothing, but inside are “ravenous” wolves.    Thus extortioner probably falls a bit short.  It references ravenous con-men who are out to eat you.  The emphasis for this list is that God did not change His mind at the cross and suddenly decide to let these kinds of people into His kingdom.  Some of the Corinthians were being “deceived” in this matter.  They felt that they could have Jesus and continue living out these sins.  No.  The Christian is called to leave the old life behind.

Verse 11 points out that coming to Jesus involves a real spiritual work that has real effects upon the sin in our life.  They had been washed.  This is a reference to the reality that sin defiles us and must be removed in order for us to be acceptable to God.  It is disingenuous to say that the death of Jesus covers our sin and then continue to pursue it.  Jesus did not wash us so that we can go back out and wallow in the mud.  Next, Paul tells them that they had been sanctified.  This means that God had made a distinction in their life that they were no longer a common person.  They had been set apart as a special person for the work of the Lord.  To say that Jesus has sanctified us and then live the common life that the world is living is also disingenuous.  Lastly the Corinthians had been justified.  To be justified is to be put in a position of acceptability before God.  If these are only spiritually, unseen, things then why would Paul list them?  He is trying to help them see the contradiction between what Christ was doing in their life and what they are doing.  They are working against Christ.  I am not talking about perfectionism, but rather about the real change that happens in the life of a person who rejects their old life and embraces the new life in Christ.

The Christian must leave behind the old lies

In order to leave behind the old life we have to let go of the old way of thinking, and any deceptive lies that would “justify” continuing in what Christ is saving us from.  In verses 12 and 13 Paul takes a couple of statements that the Corinthians would use and rebuts them.  The first is “All things are lawful for me.” It seems that they were taking the truth that Christians are not under the Law of Moses and twisting it to mean that sin doesn’t matter anymore.  This one is still used today.  This idea can be answered a couple of ways.  In Romans 8, Paul reminds Christians that we are still under the law of the Spirit of life in Christ Jesus.  You are either being led by the Spirit of God or by the sinful nature.  So Christians are not under the law of Moses, but neither are they called to “lawlessness.”  Our relationship with Jesus through the Spirit leads us into what is good, and away from what is bad.  Now to the Corinthians Paul approaches it differently.  In verse 12 he counters that not all things are beneficial.  For example, it is technically legal for you stick your hand in a viper’s mouth or on a hot stove.  But why would you?  It is not beneficial.  In fact it can do great harm.  Sin is destructive and those who go after it invite destruction into their lives.  In verse 13 he reiterates their argument, “All things are lawful for me,” and rebuts with the reality that sin is enslaving.  Once you give an inch in these areas, they will begin to dominate your life until you become a slave to unrighteousness and an adulterer against Christ.  This is a dangerous half-truth at best and you will have to reject it if you want to follow Christ.

In verse 13 we have a second Corinthian lie, “Food for the stomach and the stomach for food.”  Basically they are saying that what we are doing is natural.  God designed us this way.  In referencing food, Paul is touching on the issue of eating meats sacrificed to idols and yet still keeping it connected to some of the sexual sins listed.  The argument works either way.  God designed us with sexual desires and abilities.  Therefore nothing is wrong with it (they would argue).  We could even go further and say something like this: In the age to come God is going to give us new bodies in a new heavens and earth.  Thus what we do with this one is irrelevant as long as our “spirit” is connected to God.  This kind of reasoning is pure sophistry.  It is a person wanting to do something so bad that they justify it over the top of the truth.  Yes, God did create sexuality and He created man’s digestive system.  In fact, having sex within the bonds of marriage is more than natural.  It is a part of God’s will for many.  But this does not mean that all boundaries are null and void.  Do we eat rocks or poison for that matter?  Why not?  We were not designed for them.  Paul states that the body and its desire for food are going to be destroyed one day (the same is true for sexual desire).  This is meant to sober their thinking.  God did not design us for sexual immorality, but to please His purposes.  Like any designer, God designed sexuality to be expressed a certain way.  Sexual immorality destroys the ability of sexuality to accomplish God’s plan in our lives.  It is also destructive to relationships between people and between us and God.  To go after sexual immorality is not to embrace your design, but rather to reject it.  God’s plan for humans involves laying down this body and the resurrecting of a new glorified body.  Though we will lay down the old body for a new one, the quality or kind of resurrection is dependent upon what we do in this body.  Do we put our trust in Jesus or in our own wisdom?

The last lie is in verses 15-17.  Apparently the Corinthians weren’t saying this, but there is an assumption that underlies their activity and Paul points it out to them.  They are acting as if these sins don’t involve or affect Jesus.  They had compartmentalized their approach to Jesus.  As long as I have a spiritual “faith” in Jesus, it doesn’t matter what I do with my body.  Paul reminds them that their bodies belong to Christ because he bought them with his own blood on the cross.  Thus we are not just the bride of Christ.  We are a bride that he purchased back from slavery and death.  We are in relationship with Him “who knew no sin.”  When we go after sin our unfaithfulness to Christ does affect our relationship with Him.  This brings us to the conclusion of the matter.

The Conclusion

In verse 18 Paul lays out the categorical rejection.  A Christian must flee sexual immorality as defined by God’s Word, not our sophisticated, twisted reasoning.  So why is so much energy spent on trying to justify it?  We do so for the same reasons that people have affairs every day.  Our lips say we love Jesus, but our hearts have quit loving Him.  If you truly love Jesus then you will flee sexual immorality.  Like Joseph fleeing Potiphar’s wife, we must be people of action.  We must set up protections and accountability so that we are not caught up by the temptations of our flesh.  We must learn to control our thought life, by first controlling the garbage that is coming in, and then focusing our thoughts upon that which is good.

Thus in verse 20 we see that it is more than just freeing our lives of vices.  We must positively do something and that is to glorify God by living the life He has given us to the full.  The vice of adultery is to be rejected.  However, then a husband and wife must learn to give themselves fully to grow in loving another person for life, and for better or worse.  Young people can control themselves and wait until they are married.  Married people can control themselves and mature into the man and woman that God has designed you to be.  To do this you must learn to love your spouse in the various situations that this life will throw at you.  We have a responsibility to glorify God in how we live out our sexuality in this life.  Christians, this world needs role models of God’s plan, a plan to make us all into the image of Jesus Christ.

Sexual Boundaries Audio