Romans 14:17-18. This sermon was preached by Pastor Marty Bonner on April 15, 2018.
There is a song that has been taught to young children in church called “Jesus and Others and You.” Here are the Lyrics:
"Jesus and others and you, what a wonderful way to spell joy.
Jesus and others and you, it’s the life for each girl and each boy.
J- is for Jesus for He has first place,
O- is for others we meet face to face, and
Y- is for you, in whatever you do put yourself last and spell joy."
Of course, when we are not teaching children, it is easy as adults to toss this idea out the window as a simplistic platitude. It seems to be a foolish recipe for disaster. “I don’t want to be a doormat,” exclaims our smarter self. However, when we are honest it is the way of Jesus. Part of our problem is that we think we know what this song is talking about and yet we generally get the acronym mixed up.
Some think they have tried this, but in all actuality they were spelling JYO. The Pharisees during the life of Jesus were of this sort (I know they didn’t believe in Jesus, so they were spelling God, You, Others). Unless we learn the lesson, which we talked about last week, in Matthew 11:28-30, God is not really in first place. In reality we are in first place with God as our flag or banner. We make all the decisions and call all the shots, all in the name of God. Such is a recipe for disaster, for us and others. When Christ removes the yokes of obligation to others off of our neck and we submit to serving only Him, then we will find a place of joy that others and self cannot steal. In a word, even when we try to put others second for the sake of Christ, our self often hijacks the attempts and we fail to recognize it. Thus we walk away cynical and jaded to the path of joy that comes from Christ. Let’s look at our passage.
Verses 17 and 18 are part of an important issue in this chapter. The apostle Paul is dealing with Christians who are arguing over whether Christians should eat meat. There were several reasons and issues that could lead to such ideas. For some this had to do with the requirements of the Law of Moses to refrain from certain meats. Thus the early Christian community had many people who grew up in a society that strictly avoided certain meats. This created friction in the early community over whether or not a person should eat these meats, and how people who practically disagreed could get along. Another issue (detailed in 1 Corinthians 8 and 10) is meat that had been sacrificed to an idol. It was common in the Greco-Roman world to have meat in the marketplace that had been consecrated to the gods in general or to specific ones. Thus issues developed over whether or not Christians could eat such meat in different circumstances. In this chapter, Paul does not get into answering questions in this area. Rather the strongly held beliefs of Christians on either side of this issue were causing them to mistreat one another. Thus Paul states in verse 3 that those who didn’t eat were “despising” those who did and those who did eat were judging those who didn’t. I know, I know, it is shocking that Christians had trouble with despising and judging one another back then (sarx). So we have one group looking down upon another as if they are of no account and to be avoided (despise) and the other group judging them back (perhaps not associating with them). Both of these words are really two sides of the same coin.
The Bible does not hide the fact that Christians do not always see eye to eye on every matter and we know that this is still true today. It was the apostles’ job to lay down a firm foundation of what the teachings and “good news or Gospel” of Jesus were. Here Paul is teaching that what Christians eat or drink should not cause division among them. In verse 5 he also adds what days we hold special observances.
Do any of these issues sound a little more familiar? Our issues today may not be the same as those of the first century, but the overarching principles that the apostle Paul laid down are still necessary for us to listen to because Paul is speaking as a representative of Christ. We should not let our opinions about food, drink, and special observances, draw us into actively despising and judging one another. If we want to debate issues that is fine to a degree, but it is secondary to how we treat one another.
In serving the Lord we can lose sight of what He wants and how He wants it done. The secondary issues, or even lower, can supplant what we are primarily supposed to be accomplishing. Thus in verse 1 Paul says that we should receive one who is “weak in the faith, but not to disputes over doubtful things.” The phrase “weak in the faith” is not intended as a pejorative. It is intended to make it clear that theologically it did not matter for Christians whether they ate meat or not. The teachings of Christ, the vision of Peter, and Christ’s words to Paul had settled the issue. Christians did not need to follow the Mosaic food laws, nor did they need to fear that meat could be spiritually contaminated. Some people knew these teachings, but still it bothered their consciences. Thus their faith in these teachings was not very strong in the practice of their life, which is fine because our salvation is not based on whether we eat pork or not. Neither Jesus nor the apostles created a litmus test for people to join the community that involved eating pork or observing certain days. Thus we should receive each other as brothers and sisters even if we have some matters of conscience that are different. Yet, we should not receive them to arguments about such doubtful matters.
This is exactly where Christians have failed throughout the years. In trying to serve Jesus and the Truth, we often- without even knowing it- confuse our thinking and rationale with what Jesus wants. We end up sacrificing our brothers and sisters on the altar of our own opinions, instead of remembering what the Kingdom of God is all about. Is this what God wants? Is Jesus so concerned about what meat you eat that a person should be despised and shunned as an unbeliever or heretic? Is Jesus so concerned about what day you worship on or whether or not you celebrate Christmas? Paul is saying, “No way!” So what does Christ want and how should it be done?
There are matters that Jesus and His apostles made clear were essential in order to be a Christian. One must believe that Jesus is the Son of God, died for our sins on the cross, and gives us peace with the Father. Also, Jesus made many other strong statements that make it clear that He must be our Lord and Master, if we are to truly be His disciple. We must believe that he truly came in human flesh. Thus there are essentials and this is not what Paul is talking about. He is dealing with doubtful matters, or matters of personal opinion (no matter how biblically based our reasoning is). A famous phrase on these matters says it this way. “In essentials, unity; in doubtful matters, liberty; and in all things charity.” Thus Paul is concerned that they are attempting to make doubtful matters essential, and in the process, losing all charity with one another. This is why verses 17 and 18 are so critical to this passage. Here Paul reminds them just what Jesus is trying to accomplish with this Kingdom of God we have now joined.
The Kingdom of God has a dual aspect to it. On one hand we are already a part of the God’s kingdom. Jesus is our King; the New Jerusalem is our heavenly capital; the commands of Jesus are our law; we are its citizens; and all of us are joined by one blood (that of Jesus) and one Holy Spirit. On the other hand, the Kingdom of God has not yet fully come. The Bible promises a day when Christ will come to earth and create an earthly throne, and these things that are now in the spirit realm will be manifest in this world. Just as Jesus was incarnated into the world, so these things will also come into material existence. So the Kingdom of God has both now and not yet aspects to it. This is important to keep in mind as Paul describes what the Kingdom of God is all about.
Having reminded them that the Kingdom of God is not about what you eat, drink, or what days you specially observe, Paul lists three things that the Kingdom of God is actually trying to accomplish.
The first is righteousness. The Kingdom of God is about creating true righteousness. Though Paul is not likely listing these in matter of importance, this is primarily where the Roman believers were failing. They were not dealing with one another righteously. Notice that the people on either side of this debate likely believe that they are on the side of righteousness, but they are not dealing righteously with one another. Doesn’t this say volumes to the things that go on today in our society as a whole and even within the Church? We should not be despising anyone, and our judgments of one another should be tempered with the truth that we are not the final judge, Jesus is. Also, our judgments should be tempered with humility and the awareness that the same measure of strictness we judge others will be given to us by the Lord.
Now when it comes to Righteousness, our entry into the Kingdom of God has nothing to do with our own righteousness. We are brought into the Kingdom of God by the righteousness of Christ. Thus the ground at the foot of the cross is level, and all people approach God as beggars seeking help. Once we are in the Kingdom of God, we are enabled by the Holy Spirit within us to hear the Lord’s commands, through His written Word and by the Spirit in our hearts, and to do that which is truly righteous. The Spirit leads us into all that is righteous, if we will follow Him. Christians can lose sight of where the Holy Spirit is truly leading. He is not leading to conformity on what we eat and the days we hold special. He is leading to us living in true righteousness with one another. In fact when you contemplate the matter, you will find that it is hard to talk about righteousness without assuming our interactions with other people. Righteousness is all about how we treat one another, and the only way it can be truly righteous, is to die to ourselves, listen to and follow Jesus.
The second purpose is peace. The Kingdom of God is about giving us peace, and Jesus wants you to have peace. That is an amazing statement. We first receive peace with God through the work that Jesus did on the cross. Before I put my faith in Him, I was an enemy of God. I was on the side of the rebellion and under His looming wrath. However, He is not willing that any should perish and thus sent His Son to make terms of peace between us and Him. The terms of peace are this. We put the Son of God to death and therefore are guilty. But, if we will repent and through faith serve Him as our Lord, then we can be absolved of our crimes.
This peace with God is intended to then give us peace in our hearts and our minds. Jesus rises up as the new Lord over that seething cauldron and foaming ocean of thoughts and desires we have within. He declares, “Peace, be still!” My thoughts and desires no longer take preeminence. His is the Lord and it is His desires and commands that take first place. Part of the problem with doubtful matters or matters of opinion is that instead of trusting the words of Christ and His apostles, we let storms, of logic and desire, rob us of our peace. We must step aside and daily, moment by moment, allow the Lord to once again speak peace over us.
When we are at peace on the inside, then we can live peacefully among others (at least for our part). Yes, sometimes others need corrected in the areas of essentials, but it can be done in a peaceful way that follows the Spirit of God rather than our own spirit.
The last purpose is joy in the Holy Spirit. Jesus wants us to have joy in our hearts, but not just any joy. It is particularly a joy that is found in the Holy Spirit. Living in the Spirit is a way of saying that we are hearing Him and following Him. In 1 Thessalonians 1:6 the imagery is different, “Joy of the Holy Spirit.” Thus we can think about being in the Holy Spirit (like a sphere of relationship), or we can think about the Holy Spirit being within us (like a constant presence and influence). Either way the joy Jesus has for us does not come from certain people or things of this life. It comes from God Himself by His Holy Spirit. When we find ourselves losing our joy, we must let that be a red flag to us. We then need to get back to seeking the Lord and listening to His Spirit.
Just as Jesus told us that His yoke is easy and his burden is light, so today we should recognize that the way of the Lord is not intended to grind the joy out of our life. Rather it should cause it to grow in joy and other fruit. This is what the Holy Spirit is doing. Now don’t confuse being happy with having joy. Being happy has more to do with the surface reactions of our heart to the moment. This will go up and down as we seek to control our heart and minds before the Lord. Yet, in the midst of deep and troubling times, we can have a place of joy that the world didn’t give and the world can’t take away. When we start following ourselves then we start to lose connection to the source of joy that Jesus has for us. We need to listen to the Holy Spirit each day in order to keep experiencing that joy.
It is interesting that the New Testament talks a lot about joy in circumstances that are contradictory. Paul’s letter to the Philippians was written while he was in prison, and yet it focuses on the joy of the believer. Acts 13:52, after explaining that Paul and Barnabas had been kicked out of a particular province in Asia Minor, immediately states “And the disciples were filled with joy and with the Holy Spirit.” Listen, this would be like saying that a person lost their job…and they were filled with joy and with the Holy Spirit. It doesn’t follow in the natural. The only way that it works is because they were keeping their eyes on the Lord and listening to the Holy Spirit. They took joy in the fact that they were experiencing the same things that their Lord had experienced and countless saints down through the ages. When Jesus is truly Lord in our life, then we will have a proper priority. Instead of tearing each other down we will work to build each other up in the most, holy faith.
Thus the phrase “Jesus and Others and You, what a wonderful way to spell joy” is not off the mark. It is exactly what Paul is telling us. When we see ourselves as “on the side of Jesus” and others as farther away, then we enter into a territory that robs us of our joy. But when we serve Christ by helping and loving others in a way that pleases Him, by speaking the truth yet in love, then we can know true joy, even in the middle of trials and persecution. Let’s live for Jesus this week and know His righteousness, His peace, and His joy!