Serving is a big theme within Christianity. Jesus himself is the inspiration for this and is often called a “servant-leader.” Until Jesus this would have been considered two words that do not go together. Yet, today we see service as an obligation. So much so that it is hard for us to conceive that we can go overboard in it. Is it possible to serve too much? Perhaps better said, it is possible for us to miss the most important thing in our quest to serve more.
Serving people can take on a whole life of its own that leads to the destruction of the very soul of the server. Of course, we all need served in one way or another. However, some are in a far greater position to serve than others. It is easy to lay such a guilt trip on them that we lose sight that they are a soul loved by the Father in Heaven as well. Have you ever thought about the truth that God loves the one who is able to give and serve just as much as he loves the one who is in great need? Have you ever thought that God would rather we served less out of love for him, rather than to serve more and lose your soul? Is that possible?
Today’s story is about two sisters who had become disciples of Jesus and even his friends. They are the same two sisters who have a brother named Lazarus that Jesus would later raise from the dead. It is thought that Martha was the oldest and may have been a widower because it is called her house and they seem to be well off enough to feed and care for Jesus and his 12 disciples on numerous occasions. Let’s look at Luke 10:38-42.
The “certain village” is Bethany, less than 2 miles east of Jerusalem. I want us to first see how Martha get’s distracted by her “much serving.” I am not saying that service in and of itself is a distraction. But, that distraction is a pitfall that we need to avoid whenever we are serving others.
Martha was clearly giving hospitality to this group of men because of Jesus. He was the Anointed One and the Lord. So there is a certain joy that comes from participating in the ministry of one so used of God. She is also serving in very practical ways: a place to rest, wash your feet, eat food, and have drink. All of these things are needed in life and great ways to bless others. However, sometimes in our service to the Lord, we can lose sight of the people we serve on his behalf.
The Pharisees had made such a mistake. They had gone to great practical lengths to please God and serve Him. They would memorize the Law and all of the traditions of interpretation throughout history. They would tithe not just of their income, but even on the increase of any spices they acquired. Yet, they were so fixated on serving God that they lost sight of His people. God in and of himself has little need of our service. He is not hungry or tired, and neither is he poor or lacking love and honor. Jesus pointed this out when he said we serve him by how we serve those who belong to him. The Pharisee’s understanding of service had little room for others. In their quest to obtain great favor with God, they looked down upon and became a stumbling block to the very ones they should have been serving. God wanted them to see the needs and serve His people. He still wants us to be doing that today.
It is ironic that, in focusing on Jesus so much, Martha actually lost sight of the heart of Jesus. She wants to please the flesh of Jesus so much that she loses sight of the fact that Jesus was more concerned with spiritual matters than he was with material things. Her desires and fallen nature were pushing her to try and please the Lord in ways that were not pleasing to him. Like any good hostess, Martha had some vision of what she wanted to do and yet there were a lot of people. In the midst of this drive to please Jesus, Martha becomes annoyed with her sister who is not helping her. Now recognize that although Jesus and the disciples needed to eat and drink, Jesus is not going to be pleased by the amount or quality of the food. He would appreciate anything that Martha could and would do. There was no reason for her to be so pressured to do so much other than her desire to impress Jesus. It is exactly at this point that she loses sight of Jesus and his message. Meanwhile Martha’s sister, Mary, is sitting at the feet of Jesus listening to his teaching.
Martha basically blows her lid and asks Jesus to command Mary to help her. Thus her complaint comes from her bitterness that Mary wouldn’t help her. We are not told if she asked Mary or not. So we will have to put that aside. Have you ever had something you were trying to do that you valued highly but others didn’t see it at the same level as you? Perhaps you thought the project was so amazing that everyone should jump on board and help you. We can become bitter at people when they do not value things at the same level that we do. However, our complaints against them may be unwarranted. Sure Mary could have helped her sister and that would have been good. Yet, Mary wasn’t choosing to hurt her sister. Rather, she was choosing to enjoy the presence and teaching of Jesus. Why should Martha despise that? She would only despise it because her sinful nature was pressuring her to do so.
Now there is a subtle, second complaint. Lord, why aren’t you doing anything about this lazy sister of mine. Martha wants the Lord to line out her sister. We may not recognize it at first but, those who give themselves to much serving and become resentful to the Lord Himself. God why don’t you make more people help me? This is such a great way to serve, why aren’t you blessing it? Such “foxes” will destroy the vines of our desire to serve. Our energy to serve will quickly shrivel up and we will become disillusioned to God, people and even ourselves.
Jesus simply tells Martha, “One thing is needed.” This word “needed” has the sense of an obligation or duty. There is only one thing that is necessary, Martha. Why do you insist on so many unnecessary things? What a question for our life. Do I insist on trying to do so many unnecessary things that I have driven any joy from my life? What a tragedy this can be.
The “One Thing” That We Need
Martha’s complaint leaves something hanging that we need to deal with. Does Jesus really care for Martha and her service for his sake? Or simply put, Does Jesus Care? There is an old hymn titled, “Does Jesus Care?” The chorus goes like this, “Oh, yes, He cares, I know He cares. His heart is touched with my grief. When the days are weary, the long nights dreary, I know my Savior cares.” Without question Jesus cares for Martha and for us. All we need to do is look at the cross, as he sheds his life-blood on our behalf, and we cannot but be convinced of His great love for us. But, Jesus cares about Martha too much to let her destroy herself with unnecessary things. Martha is troubling herself with so many concerns and desires. She has created her own emotional, perfect storm. She is like the disciples were on the Sea of Galilee when the storm came up suddenly and threatened their lives. She is a woman tossed and driven by many things that the Lord himself does not care about. But, Jesus does care about her. Jesus didn’t care that Mary had chose to listen to him instead of help with serving. Why? He didn’t care about that because it wasn’t as important. Have you ever thought that God cares about you too much to let you have your way? Perhaps that wall you keep running into is God trying to tell you to rest and let those worries and desires go. “Peace, be still, Martha!” You can almost hear our Lord saying that too us at times when we have driven ourselves into a panic.
Are you worried and troubled by many things? Those are the words Jesus used of Martha. The word “worried” here is the same used in Matthew 6:25. “Therefore, I say to you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or what you will drink; nor about your body, what you will put on it. Is not life more than food and the body more than clothing?” In Philippians 4:6 we are told, “Be anxious(worried) for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.” Wow! Even in our service to Him, it is not God’s desire for us to be filled with worry and anxiety. He wants us to have His peace guarding our hearts and mind from those many desires and temptations that threaten to rob us of our joy. The word “troubled” here is the idea of disturbed or uproar. Thus, the picture of the storm in Martha’s heart is exactly what Jesus saw. There is no end to the things that can cause us to worry. If you let them they will surround you like the howling winds of Galilee and destroy your very soul.
Yet, Mary had chosen “the good part.” Jesus challenges Martha’s choices during his stay by saying that Mary had chosen something better. Why should I take that away from her? Now the good choice is not between learning and serving. Martha’s problem is not that she chose to serve when she should have chosen to learn. Rather, Martha made choices that distracted her from Jesus and what was important to Him.
In Luke 18:22 Jesus told the rich young ruler that he still lacked “one thing.” Sell all of your riches and follow me. Again, it is not wrong that he is rich. However, Jesus saw that his riches were distracting him from being able to truly follow Jesus. The rich man needed to sell all his possessions. Martha needed cut back on all the ways she was trying to serve. To follow Jesus is to learn how to walk the way he walked. The way of Jesus is a way of dying to those concerns that try to drive us, and learning to simply trust the Lord. “Pick up your cross and follow me.” Although some of the disciples were literally put to death on crosses, the words of Jesus are intended to go beyond the material world. We all have things we need to die to in order to make godly choices. Mary loved the Lord and it led her to choose to sit at his feet and receive his teaching. Could Martha have simply served the Lord and his disciples because it was a good thing, rather than trying to impress the Lord with her much serving? We need to quit trying to impress God with the things we do for Him. In truth we are secretly trying to deserve his love. Why would you insist on “deserving” something that is given freely? God loves you without much serving. This does not mean we shouldn’t serve. Rather, it means that we can freely serve. It means that our joy can remain regardless of how much and how great we are able to do.
Jesus is tender with Martha here, even though she was being harsh with her sister. Jesus wants Martha to experience his peace. Even Jesus had to deal with this temptation. Everywhere he went people clamored for the Lord to heal them, cast out demons, teach us, and give us bread and fish. Although Jesus gladly gave himself to these things, we also see him slipping away to pray; and slipping away to other places. The people would wake up and become frantic when they realized Jesus was gone. “Where did he go? Get in the boat. Let’s follow him!” Instead of being driven to heal everyone in the world, Jesus focused on what really was necessary to please His Father in heaven.
Let me just leave us with some things to consider in choosing the good part in our lives. Of course, off the top, we need to walk away from those things that are definitely sinful. “Go and sin no more.” These things are clearly not the good part. Yet, in choosing good things, we can be tempted to do too many good things. Are you a parent of a young child and working fulltime? Then you may have little time to do anything else. There are some good things that we need to cancel altogether simply because our life is too cluttered. Is this okay? God loves you and doesn’t want you to grind all joy out of your life in the pursuit of something that is already yours (i.e. his love). Also, in those good things that we choose to keep doing we might need to lower our expectations and desires. As a parent you should not abdicate your responsibility to raise your child. However, in choosing to raise them, we can put unrealistic expectations upon ourselves and upon our child. First time obedience, every time, is going to fill you full of bitterness, worry, and fear. What does God expect from you? Did His children demonstrate first time obedience all the time? This is not meant to be a cop-out for responsible parenting. It is a plea for parents to understand that God wants them to have joy as a parent, even in the midst of trips to the hospital or to the principal’s office. Are you choosing the good part? Lastly, the good things that we continue to do and have simplified also need to be focused correctly by the heart of Christ and in thanks for his love. What I mean is that we have to quit trying to impress Jesus and deserve him. Rather we need to operate from the present reality of having his love and favor. We need to do what we do out of joy and because it is the good thing that he has given to us to do. Whether anyone helps us or not is irrelevant. What is relevant is that I do all that I do as unto the Lord and know that it is enough. Do it today. Go through the list of all that you have to do and cancel some things, do less of others, and make sure you do all that you do out of thanks to the Lord for His great love!