Last week we recognized that the primary key to the Kingdom of Heaven is the Truth of the Identity of Jesus and what he came to do on our behalf. However this does beg the question, “Why is the Kingdom of Heaven “locked” in the first place?
When taken as a whole, the biblical message is this: the nature, choices, and actions of a person lock themselves out of God’s Kingdom. John 3:16 says it well that God gave his one and only son that WHOSOEVER believed on him would have life rather than perishing. Also Peter says that God is not willing that any should perish. God has done absolutely everything but make people into robots. Judas had an intimate view of the nature and wisdom of Jesus. Yet, he made a different decision than the other disciples. He refused to humble himself and follow Jesus. He chose wickedness over righteousness. This clear choice is made everyday by countless people. Thus the Book of Revelation gives us a glimpse of the end of the age. Not only will mankind gather for global war, but when Jesus appears, the armies of the earth will turn their firepower against him. Though Christ puts this rebellion down and institutes a 1,000 year peace on the earth, still a large number of people will be able to be tempted by Satan to surround the “camp of the saints” and try to destroy them. God in his wisdom knew that sin would never be content to choose a different path. If given the chance it would always seek to destroy God and those who follow his way; thus the need to lock out the kind of person who will not repent and turn away from wickedness.
Now today, we are going to go to Matthew 18:15-18 and look at a second key that can lock or unlock the Kingdom of Heaven to people.
This whole section begins with the disciples’ question, “Who is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven?” Jesus responds by saying in verse 3, “unless you change and become like little children, you will never enter the kingdom of heaven.” (NIV) Without the humility of a child, and a simple openness to being taught by God, none of us will even enter the Kingdom of Heaven; much less be the greatest. So facing the gospel requires an initial humility and surrender to God and his plan. When it comes to dealing with sin we tend to lose our humility and surrender. Thus Jesus deals with this area in verse 15 and following. If we do not get a handle on how to correctly deal with the sins of others and our own sin then the Kingdom of Heaven will remain locked and inaccessible. So what should we do when others sin against us, especially fellow Christians?
First we start with a private confronting. The world is too quick to publish the sins of others and it relishes too much in the fall of others. Believers in Jesus are not to be this way. We are to be motivated by love (hard to do when you have been sinned against). Love covers a multitude of sins. However, it doesn’t cover them up. The difference between a cover-up of sin and covering sin is that a cover-up seeks to avoid dealing with the sin and its consequences. Whereas, covering sin keeps the circle of intimates small so that the issue can be dealt with in respect and honor. However, if the sin is a public sin then the Scriptures state it is to be dealt with publically. So here is the principle. Do rush to expand the circle of those involved in dealing with a sin. Only involve those who were present. The balance between going to war against those who sin against us and not dealing with it and hoping it will go away, is to lovingly confront in private.
The next issue is how the rebuke is received. The phrase, “if your brother hears you,” means if he listens to you and recognizes his sin. The second key in dealing with sin is that we need to humbly receive rebukes. We don’t talk about this much, but, the sinner has just as much responsibility to receive it humbly as the aggrieved does to give it lovingly. God in his wisdom uses each of us to perfect the other. But this only works when we are humble. If we refuse to be humble, we refuse to be perfected and ultimately we refuse the way of Jesus.
If the rebuke is not humbly received then the Issue needs to be made accountable to one or two others. We need to be careful who we choose to bring into such a situation. Choose individuals who can be objective and give godly wisdom if needed. In other words you are not bringing your own personal posse to beat up on the person. They are there to give witness to the actions and demeanor of both sides.
At this point I should bring up the problem of gossiping. Even under the guise of getting advice we can be guilty of publishing the sins of others before we have rightly confronted them. If you need advise get it in a general manner; not giving the name of the offender. However, if the rebuke is not received you get two witnesses to verify.
Lastly, if you are still refused then it is to be exposed to the Church. There is no process given and it is highly doubtful that Jesus intends us to stand up in church and tell the sins of the other. Still, it needs to go before the elders of the church. It has to be dealt with publically. When a person goes through such a process and they still refuse to humble themselves and reconcile then something is deeply wrong in their heart. They are not following the Lord. They are following themselves. For the sake of the church it is best, as in 1 Corinthians 5, to disfellowship the individual until they repent. This doesn’t have to be a blow up. It can be something as simple as this, “We love you, but because you refuse to deal with this sin and make things right, we have to ask you to leave until such a time as you can admit your fault and make things right.” Otherwise, it will become a festering wound in the church and ultimately cause many more to be caught up in the issue.
We must always remember that God uses our fellow Christians to help us grow to be more like Jesus. It is the litmus test of our inner spiritual life. We may not like it. We may even run from it and try to avoid it. However, we need to learn to properly challenge each other and we also need to learn to properly receive a challenge. It is too easy not to say anything until we blow up. This is a sin, also. However, just because someone does a poor job of confronting us of our sin does not get us off the hook of repenting ourselves. We can spend our time playing the legal game or we can become more like Jesus. “He got mad and yelled at me in an unchristian way, so I don’t have to listen to him.” “He sinned against me so I get a freebie to scream at him and vent.” Both of these attitudes are sinful.
Sin that is not dealt with will get worse and hurt more people. The choice to do nothing is sinful because it puts personal comfort in front of the pain of others. Sin does not stay the same. Rather, it grows and becomes worse.
Lastly, we need humility and love on both sides in order for there to be reconciliation. God help us to love one another and thus prove that we do love Jesus.